There are three stories about Marvin Gaye that I absolutely love. One is told by Smokey Robinson. The two men are on the road at a time when they are both young, married soulful sex symbols. They are having a conversation about the solicitous women on the road, and Marvin says something about how lady parts “call” him, and he can’t help but to answer. On the other end of the spectrum, the other is from another Motown artist, a dear friend of mine. When she was signed to the label after winning a local contest in Detroit, she prayed for an opportunity to see the Dreamboat that was Marvin Gaye. After the official tour of Hitsville, she roamed off to herself to hear piano playing in the room. It was Marvin Gaye. Careful not to be seen or heard, she peeked into the room to watch him as he played. After he finished the song, he uttered, presumably to an audience of no one, “Th-th-th-that’s all folks” a la Porky Pig. She was disappointed that her hot guy would do such a silly thing. Still another story comes direct from Berry Gordy himself. Marvin was asked to appear on the “Ed Sullivan Show,” a boon for any artist in the swinging 60s. Marvin told Berry “no.” Paraphrasing, he explained, if they really want me, when you tell them no, they will make a big fuss to get me. Berry, who had enjoyed a great rapport with Ed Sullivan ever since the Supremes made their legendary first appearance, did not want to concede. Finally, he did. He told Sullivan’s folks that Marvin didn’t want to do the show, and they indeed begged and cajoled for him to do it.
This dichotomy, the slick fella who succumbed to feminine persuasion and the little musical boy who could just play around at the piano and the highfalutin’ artist who needed to have the ego stroke of saying no, is the most endearing thing in the world to me. I guess I have a thing for complicated, “Stubborn kinda fellows,” for whom Marvin is an obvious patron saint.
In any case, as we celebrate his tragically symmetrical life - born April 2, 1939, died April 1, 1984 - I honor this man in full measure and am grateful for personalized memories his music has brought me. Memories of me and “the boy” (aka Deliverer of Love and Pain) dancing to “Sanctified Lady” in our favorite LA boutique hotel. Are they an island receding into the past, or a destiny to be fulfilled? Who knows. But in any case, thank you, my dear Mr. Marvin Gaye.